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How to Determine Your Purpose

I firmly believe that we are all made for greatness, with special gifts and talents, and a God given purpose. I point to Scripture as indication of such:

  • Jeremiah 1:5 – “Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you. And before you went forth from the womb, I sanctified you. And I made you a prophet to the nations.”
  • Jeremiah 29:11 – For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
  • John 10:10 – I have come so that they may have life, and have it more abundantly.

To me, these verses clearly mean that we are made for greatness. God conceived of us thousands of years ago, making us in His image and likeness, as part of His grand plan, individually and as a part of all of humanity. God gifted each of us with very specific and unique talents, making all of us 10s on a scale of 1-10. Loving you more than you’ll ever know, no matter what you’ve ever done, God wants the very best for you. He wants you to be happy and fulfilled. God made you (all of us) for GREATNESS!!!

The Process

So the question is…how do you determine where your greatness lies? Or stated another way, what is your purpose in life? I would suggest that the process for this is to be prayerful and methodical.

First, make a list of your talents, your skills, the things that God has gifted you with. Thinking about them and praying through them, jot down anything that comes to mind. It would be a good idea to group them into categories, again jotting any thoughts that come to you. Then, sit in silence, listening for God’s voice. Let Him speak into what you have on paper, taking note of anything He is communicating.

Next make a list of your desires. What are the things that you really enjoy doing? Often they are the things that you are very good at. What would you like to accomplish in the short-term? In the long-term? What mark do you want to leave on this world? Pray through the list, thinking about each word, expanding on each where appropriate. Then listen for God’s voice. What’s He telling you about your desires.

Finally, make a list of your needs. I’d suggest the categories would include:

  • Spiritual – what is your relationship with God? How can it improve? What do you want to do to enhance it?
  • Emotional – what is the health of your relationships, including with yourself. Do you have a positive self-image? Do you like yourself? Do you love yourself….humbly? Do you have a strong inner circle of friends, those who support you on your journey? What improvements do you need to make here?
  • Intellectual – how are you feeding your mind? Are you stimulated or stagnant? What changes do you need to make?
  • Physical – first there are the basics of food, clothing, and shelter. What are your necessities, given the life you are living…or are planning? After the basics, you can add some detail, including health (diet) and fitness.
  • Financial – what are your needs, i.e. kids in college, retirement, houses, cars

Making a list of all of these things, I’d again suggest taking them to prayer, writing down whatever comes to mind. Then, again sit in silence, listening for the Lord to speak into your life.

In addition to the above, I’d suggest discussing these things with others…advisors, mentors, those you can trust.

Lastly, look to signs in your life. God speaks to us through others. Examples could be:

  • Conversations you have
  • Books or verses you read, including Scripture
  • Song you hear
  • Something you see
  • Something you experience, including those things that bring you joy

God wired each of us in a very specific way, giving us unique talents, desires, and needs. He made us each for a unique, specific, and special purpose. Praying through where your talents, desires, and needs intersect will lead you to your purpose. What is yours?

As always, please feel free to contact me with any questions, comments, or challenges at [email protected].

God Bless you on your Path to Peace, Joy, and Fulfillment!!!

Mark Joseph

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God’s Gentle Whispers…the Joy of Christmas

I have a brother in Christ and very good friend, Pete Diulus, who I’ve known and served with in ministry for many years. Every year, Pete shares a Christmas message. Although all are very good, this year’s really spoke to me, so much so that I wanted to share it with you (with Pete’s permission). Here you go, in Pete’s words.  

God speaks to us in many ways. Often, we look for the big, flashy signs. The truth is that God more often speaks to the world in gentle whispers than he does in big events like fires, thunders, and earthquakes. I’d like to share with you the story of a place where “gentle whispers” spread the joy of Christmas every day of the year. 

If you’re a bit like me… you want the very best for your loved ones. Maybe even more than you want for yourself. We all want to find our place in the world, where we can connect meaningfully with others, share our unique gifts, and make a positive impact. Finding this place isn’t always obvious or easy. Just imagine… the person you love has worked hard to develop their skills, only to find that there is “no place for them” in the job market. 

Patrick, a dynamic and loving young man who lives with autism, wanted to find a “real” job. He enrolled in the local community college’s food service program, and working extremely hard, he excelled and graduated. 

Unfortunately, Patrick and his parents, Mike and Terri, discovered an ugly truth about the job market for adults with intellectual and developmental disabilities (IDD). The unemployment rate for adults with IDD is ridiculously high. They found that employers seemed hesitant to hire a hardworking and motivated person like Patrick because the little extra help he would need might be disruptive to business. For years, the family prayed for a way to share the joy they experienced, both through Patrick and in serving others. 

Like Terri and Mike, my wife, Carol, and I have longed for a meaningful employment opportunity for our son, Jonathan, to share his unique gifts. Since he graduated high school ten years ago, Jonathan has worked in a variety of volunteer “gigs,” including sorting, packing, shredding, and assembling. Jonathan and I have also volunteered together, visiting peoples’ homes to offer Holy Communion. I saw the positive impact Jonathan was having on the folks we visited, just by being who he is and sharing his unique gifts. 

Unbeknownst to us, Mike and Terri’s prayers were answered by the patron saint of caregivers, Brother André Bessette. Brother André Bessette was a “gentle whisper” of a person. He was a frail and sickly child. He was poor, uneducated, and thought to be illiterate. Orphaned at 12, he struggled to hold down a job because of his poor health. When he was finally accepted into the Congregation of Holy Cross, a religious order that is best known as educators, the only job he was qualified for was “doorkeeper.” For the rest of his life, this was the only formal position he held. 

Brother André turned this position into something remarkable. With his kind, humble, loving, and prayerful ways, he sought to bring Jesus to everyone he met. So, as a doorkeeper, he welcomed the sick, lonely and the suffering with open arms. 

When Brother André passed away in January of 1937, over one million people braved the Montreal cold to pay their respects to the “Miracle Man of Montreal.” This “gentle whisper” of a person showed us how to humbly serve Jesus and each other in a kind and joyful way. 

Brother André’s story inspired Patrick, Mike, and Terri to open a coffee shop – Brother André’s Café – to be staffed by adults with IDD. The idea was born from the desire to make a positive difference in the lives of people who might otherwise struggle to find employment… and create connection with the community and the wider world. 

Mike and Terri shared the idea with Father Chris Donley, a Pittsburgh diocesan priest and cofounder of Move a Mountain Missions (MMM). Father Chris saw the project as a natural extension of MMM’s mission “to be Jesus for the most vulnerable all over the world” and invited Mike and Terri to launch Brother André’s Café as a part of Move A Mountain Missions. 

But opening a Café in the midst of the coronavirus pandemic simply wasn’t possible. Determined to find a way forward, the grand opening was postponed, and the team quietly launched Brother André’s Cafe online in November of 2020. The storefront opening at Epiphany Catholic Church followed in October 2021, and our son, Jonathan, was hired to work there. 

Every time that I drop off Jonathan for his scheduled shift, I’m impressed by this wonderful, hardworking group of people. The team at Brother André’s has turned a simple cup of coffee and homemade baked goods into a specialty experience. Father Chris refers to these 13 employees as “the Baker’s Dozen.” Each has created their specialty drink, has starred in Brother Andre’s ongoing video blog, and continues to cultivate their skills and new friendships. 

As we celebrated the official 1st Anniversary of Brother André’s Café this year, I paused to reflect on the remarkable series of “gentle whispers” that connected my family with Brother André’s. We’re a part of an extended family now… proud parents sharing challenges and triumphs as we watch our sons and daughters work together… seeing their passion and joy overflow into the world. 

We are profoundly grateful for that moment when Father Joe stopped us after Mass and asked, “have you heard of Brother André’s?” For us, this was a realization that truly, there are no coincidences…every person has a place and a calling. 

Brother André’s inspiration is ideal for the Café, whose employees and supporters are also like God’s “gentle whisper,” transforming the simplest thing into something remarkable. It is a continuous privilege to be associated with these amazing individuals and their families. 

I would urge you to stop by, have a cup of coffee and one of their incredible cookies, and “experience the joy” at Brother Andre’s Café. You will “witness the face of Jesus” in the smiles of “the Baker’s Dozen.” 

Mark here…I loved this story and wanted to share it with you. If you’d like more information on Brother Andre’s Café, want to look at a menu, or make a donation, please go to https://brotherandres.org.

As always, please feel free to contact me at [email protected] with comments, concerns, questions, or prayer requests. 

God Bless you on your Path to Peace, Joy, and Fulfillment!!!

Remember…God made you for Greatness!!!

Mark Joseph

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The Two Lessons of Christmas

Christmas is coming fast…just four days away. Is your shopping done? Your party plans made? Do you know what Church service or Mass you’re going to? Are you going to get to see and do all that you want to?

In today’s blog, I thought I’d address what Christmas is and isn’t. Let’s do the latter first.

What Christmas Isn’t

Christmas isn’t just this commercial thing, where we’re hustling and bustling to buy things. It’s not just parties and celebrations, decorations, food, and drink. It’s not just light shows and concerts, nor caroling or drinking of eggnog.

And it’s not an opportunity to just use a different greeting, given the time of year, like Happy Holidays…

What Christmas Is

Instead, it’s where we can wish others a heartfelt Merry Christmas, knowing that Jesus and His love are at the center of it all. While Christmas can be those things above…as long as they’re wrapped in love, it is so much more.

More than anything, God is love. And the greatest love He could give us is His Son. As opposed to making a grand entrance, Jesus entered this world the same as we did. Unlike us, He was born of a Virgin, our Mother Mary, the first Disciple.

For His first 30 years, Jesus lived the life that we do. Different from his public ministry, He garnered little attention, instead being with His family, learning a trade, learning His faith, and working along-side His father….all I would suspect so He could minister more effectively to those He would meet, in addition to you and me.

Jesus entered into our humanity so that we could enter into His divinity. We celebrate on Christmas one of the truest examples of love in all of human history (the other being Jesus’ Crucifixion)…

  • We celebrate God’s love for His Son and Their love for us.
  • We also celebrate our love for one another.

Christmas is the time of year when love is truly in the air. There seems to be a compassion and generosity that don’t exist at other times of the year. People seem to be happier, friendlier. It is a time of joy, excitement, enthusiasm, and as we approach the new year, even expectation.

Although holidays, including Christmas, can be hard for some (we just lost my father this past October), December 25th, Christmas Day offers us hope in what can be this sometimes gloomy world. Christmas reminds me of John 3:16, where Jesus says that “God so loved the world, that He gave us His only begotten Son, so that all who believe in Him may not perish, but may have eternal life”. That’s the gift of Christmas.

  • Christmas is an example of God’s love.
  • Christmas is a time when we share that love.

God loves you more than you’ll ever know, no matter what you’ve ever done. More than anything, He wants you to live a life of Peace, Joy, and Fulfillment.

May you and your family have a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!!!

God Bless, Peace, Joy, Love,

Mark Joseph

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When Life Gets Tough

My wife, kids, and grandkids are all healthy. So is my mother and mother-in-law, my brothers, and their families. We just celebrated Thanksgiving, all of us together, and it was a great blessing.  So what I’m talking about here has nothing to do with anyone being sick or dying. No relationship issues or financial crises. And while our country is “going to hell in a handbasket”, that’s not what the title of this blog is referring to either. 

I’m in a rut. Things are not fun at work. It’s nobody’s fault, but instead the realities of a post-COVID world, especially when you’re in the events business…which is the case for our conference ministry. And additional challenges compound things. I love where I work and its mission. I love my department and all its outstanding people. But currently it’s a grind. Add to that the discernment I’m going through related to my personal ministry, as noted a couple weeks ago.

Photo by Brett Jordan

I’m reminded that this too will pass. One of my teammates just stated that “it’s a season”. Among the dozens of quotes I remember from my Dad, one of my favorites is, “nothing is ever as good as it seems and nothing is ever as bad as it seems”. All of these resonate with me. So does the stuff I’m constantly preaching, although not always easy to apply (or see) when you’re in the middle of the storm. 

A friend asked me what I think the Lord is trying to show me (teach me) in the moment? He suggested that I take it to prayer. Ha!!…go figure. You’ve seen me write about the “attitude of gratitude”, indicating that everything happens for a reason:

  • For a greater good
  • For the opportunity to glorify God
  • To help us be our best

Not always easy to appreciate in the moment, I believe it to be absolutely true. As such, I need to ask what God is trying to show me? How is this experience going to help me in the long run? What skills is He wanting me to develop? What is the greater good? How will He be glorified through this experience?

I also talk about humility, understanding that it’s not us, but God working through us. There’s an old saying that is attributed to St. Ignatius of Loyola, “pray as if everything depends on God, and work as if everything depends on you.” Many think the phrase captures the Ignatian spirit: turning it all over to God in prayer and then working tirelessly and urgently to do God’s work.

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Both of the above (gratitude and humility) relate to surrender…giving it all over to God and following His will for your life. As noted in previous blogs, my experience is that our willingness to surrender is dependent on trust…trusting our Lord, trusting is His absolute and unconditional love for us, knowing and internalizing that He put us on this earth for a specific purpose, with special and unique talents. Trusting that He wants the absolute best for us and knows (more than we know) what will make us happy. 

I refer to all of this as the Path to Peace…Surrender, Gratitude, Humility, and Love. Although I wrote a book and talk about it often, I still need reminded. Not new concepts, the best ways are prayer, the Sacraments, particularly the Eucharist in the Mass and Confession, and fellowship. I need to double down on all three…which I’m doing. 

I don’t do this often, but please pray for me and my teammates during this time, as we try to rebuild our conference ministry. If you feel so called, please come and/or bring your kids. Steubenville Conferences are absolutely life changing and I’m not overstating that. 

I’ll pray for you during this Advent season. As we prepare for Baby Jesus, our Lord and Savior, let us recall our faith, in good times and bad, knowing how much God loves us…and always remembering what great things God wants for each and every one of us. 

As always, please email me at [email protected] with questions, concerns, comments, or prayer requests. 

God Bless you on your Path to Peace, Joy, and Fulfillment!!!

Remember…God made you for Greatness!!!

Mark Joseph